Toxic relationships can make you feel unhappy, undermine your self-worth, and even make you wonder whether you deserve love at all. And the scariest part is that it can happen without you even noticing it and realizing it’s happening. For example, you might always want to go above and beyond for your partner. They, on the other hand, might give back very little. This dynamic can have disastrous effects on you.
We want you to be aware of this kind of relationship and try to avoid being in one, and here`s why.
Giving and taking
Even in a perfect relationship, it`s almost impossible to see partners who give and take equally. And that`s normal. It`s only natural to want a shoulder to cry on, or someone who can provide you with emotional, and maybe even financial support when you`re going through a rough time. And it`s just as natural to want to focus all your time and effort on the person you love, who`s in desperate need of your help.
However, it can become unhealthy when one partner does all the giving, and another one does all the taking and gives nothing in return. If you`re a naturally selfless, affectionate, and caring person, you like to always be there for your partner. And it might be even less apparent to you that they aren`t really trying to give you as much in return.
At first, your help might be appreciated, but then your partner might start taking it for granted. They might start taking advantage of you, constantly needing you to get them out of some trouble that they themselves created.